Saying Sorry Is Not Accountability (Lecture)
I’m sorry is one of those phrases that on the surface seems like the ultimate act of humility and love. And to an extent, it sometimes is, but how it’s used today is more of an excuse or avoidance tactic for having real accountability. Real accountability goes beyond saying “I’m sorry” and is a path to right a wrong in a tangible way, not just express an emotion temporarily. Real accountability is showing respect for others even when it hurts; not just because it’s the right thing to do, but also because the world isn’t all about you.
Self-Reflection Question
When have I used an apology to avoid true accountability—and what damage did that avoidance cause in my relationships or reputation?
This question makes you confront the difference between saying the right words and doing the right thing. GI Griffin makes it clear: accountability isn’t about saying “sorry”—it’s about changing behavior. Real growth happens when you stop apologizing and start owning your impact.
Self-Improvement Challenge
Think of one situation where you fell short and gave an apology instead of taking full responsibility. This week, take one meaningful action to repair or make it right.
Whether it’s following through on a promise, correcting a mistake, or showing consistent change—this challenge helps you move from performance to integrity. Accountability is action. Start proving it.