11 Apr People Who Seek Comfort Are Not Ready For Growth
I already know people are going to be pissed at me for this one, but as always, I’m going to give it to you with brutal honesty (plus I know that you’ll get over it). In my years of advising, consulting, mentoring, and general living; I have noticed a constant pattern. People who constantly seek comfort over meeting a challenge head on are rarely the types to welcome real growth. They spend so much of their time trying to feel good, that they miss the opportunities to do better and better their lives. These people are scared of discomfort, and that fear will keep them exactly where they are at, stuck in fear.
Seeking Comfort Is Seeking Escape
Seeking comfort by its very nature is literally choosing to not accept your current reality. Meaning, by try seeking comfort, you’re also rejecting things as they are. This may be fine if you have the power to change the situation, but for a lot of things in life, we do not. Constantly chasing being comfortable is people’s way of escaping something they do not like or cannot control.
While this is an understandable response, constantly escaping your problems rarely leads to meaningful growth. It forever traps you in a state of avoiding the source of your issues, usually based in emotions and an inability to regulate them properly. A good example of this is when a child chronically online or on social media (hello crappy parents) and you take away their device. This usually results in a nuclear sized meltdown. Their emotional regulation skills are poor because they have constantly been escaping them by distracting themselves, and creating a crack head like dependence on their go to escape method. These children have a problematic life ahead of them full of emotional and behavioral issues.
Real Growth Comes From Discomfort Or Pain
If there’s no discomfort or pain, you’re probably not growing. That’s the simple fact of it. Life has pain, and trying to escape that is a futile endeavor. We grow when we feel pain and decide to meet it head on and overcome it. You can see this when looking at people in a developed nation vs an undeveloped nation. Due to more abundance, the developed nation has a much lower tolerance for pain or suffering, often throwing in the towel at the first sign of discomfort before any real growth happens. The people of the undeveloped nation are used to more difficult situations and are better able to withstand discomfort to be able to regulate their emotions well enough to take advantage of the opportunity to grow. If you’re ever wanting to see this in action, watch videos of the Hadza tribe online. An instant dose of humility.
The Brutal Truth: Some People Aren’t Ready For Growth
A bitter pill to swallow, but not everyone is made for this kind of growth. The kind that requires you to face your fears. Some people leave that to leaders and instead provide a support role to them (ie working a job). Nothing against that and I value people who provide support as they are truly needed in this world. But if you’re trying to live an individualistic type lifestyle where the focus is to lead your own life, this dependency is contradictory to your survival. Not to mention, trying to lead yourself when you can’t meet tough times with courage is just ego and stupidity because it negatively affects your ability to survive and the lives of those affected by your actions.
Point blank, I think people need to own it on whether they have the constitution and fortitude for what growth and leading themselves takes, and if not, step out of the way for someone who does so they can show you the way. We’re talking about acceptance of your skills and situation, accountability for your actions, and humility to follow someone else when needed. All qualities of a mature responsible adult and needed for a person to learn, grow, and make their lives better.
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