GI said it, GI back again on GI said it where I break down my perspective on different topics. And today I wanted to talk about how to overcome insecurity and reach your potential. The reason I wanted to talk about this is that I’ve been recently interacting with someone from Australia, and they love the show. They love GI said it, which is great, thank you. But they are struggling with a bit of insecurity issues, right? And it’s starting to affect their work. It’s starting to affect their life and to some extent their relationship. And this is something that I noticed with a lot of people, and I also noticed that a lot of people don’t like to admit it, but it’s a factor that because it’s an internal issue, it really permeates and it goes into just so many facets of your life. And even when you’re not aware of it, it still affects you.
It’ll affect, as I said, your relationships, your job, your school, your potential, your success. So I want to at least give my perspective on this and hopefully provide some ways in which you can actually go ahead and begin to overcome that and allow that to be a positive asset. So first off, let’s talk about insecurity. And what it is, insecurity on the base level is fear. All it is is that you don’t feel good enough. Whether that’s from your looks, whether that’s from your skills, your job, your school grades, getting relationships, doesn’t matter what it is, you don’t feel good enough. And the source of that is sadly usually childhood. During somewhat in childhood, either someone made you feel a certain way or didn’t provide enough emotional support and emotional growth or even emotional regulation tools, which we’ll get into a little later. And that has continued to affect you well into adulthood and people personally who have never grown out of this as well.
So it’s really based on fear and how you’re going to overcome that. The first thing I would normally say is courage. You need to push forward and you just kind of push past that and overcome it. That’s not realistic. For some people. The insecurity is so deep that they can’t must wrap that courage. So the little secret to this is it’s real simple. All you have to do is love who you are. But I will say, but it’s a multi-step process to do that because it’s a lot more difficult than what I’m saying. First step within that is that first you need to figure out who you are in the first place. Discover who you are. If you don’t know who you are, this is going to be really, really difficult. So take the time to do that, whether that is exploring some things, taking some time to reflect.
If you’re talking with a therapist, if you’re talking with family, go and do that to learn who you are, some of your strengths and your weaknesses, and most importantly, your values. Learn. What do you believe in? What would you fight for? What do you represent? Learn those things about yourself. After you’ve learned, then it comes time to accepting those things. And again, it’s easier said than done, but you need to work at it. It may take time, it may take months, it may take years. For some people, it may take decades, but you still need to work at that because you’re never going to overcome that insecurity if you can’t learn to accept who you are and love yourself. So I’ve been talking in terms of other people, well, let’s say speak within myself, obviously as any other human being, I have flaws. I’m not going to be perfect at everything.
No one’s going to be that. And anyone who’s trying to play that is yet again another person who’s insecure. Little secret on that one. So for my flaws that I have, one, I have to recognize that I have them. Two, I have to accept that they’re a part of me, unless it’s something that’s causing problems for me or other people, then it might need to be changed. But I accept that and learn to love that. I love my floss. I love that there’s little things about me that other people may not be so cool with, but they’re part of my values. And because of that, I’m going to keep that within myself because I believe in those things. But it’s important to be able to differentiate between something that’s part of your values and you want to keep, because in your world or in your life, it’s a positive asset versus things that are actually problematic to other people.
It takes a bit of being real with yourself and being honest with yourself. So after you figure that out, you’re able to accept who you are. Then comes the loving part. The loving part has to do with, how do I say this? Basically, you have to give yourself some grace for one, and you have to be grateful for what you have because you could end up a lot worse. Let’s be real about that. You could have way worse issues than whatever you have currently at that moment. And so it’s not the end of the world unless it’s going to kill you or something. It’s not the end of the world. You need to learn to love some of those so-called defects or some of the weaknesses that you have because it’s part of who you are and it’s part of what makes you human. It allows you to be able to have some of that empathy and relate with other people because they have flaws as well.
So insecurity in itself, I see it as kind of like an internal sickness because you feel so bad about yourself and you’re so afraid of what other people will think that it keeps you from going and living your life and keeps you from being the best person that you can be. And that’s why I wanted to make it on how to overcome insecurity and reach your potential. So we talked a bit about insecurity. I want to talk a little bit about potential. Potential. Well, yeah, it’ll start with do you know what your strengths are? Right? And I say that because a lot of people, they think they know, they’re oftentimes trying to be something they’re not and wondering why they’re struggling so hard or this is a big one. I see a whole lot. They aren’t content or aren’t happy with, or don’t even respect their own strengths.
Look, I’ve talked about this before. Not everyone’s going to be a leader just because you’re trying to be a leader. You’re trying to be a leader or the world, especially today, the world’s telling you you need to be a leader. Oh, it’s important to be a leader, this and that. Not everyone’s a leader. Some people play a support role. And I think personally that people shouldn’t be looking down on the fact that you might be playing a support role that is important. That is so important. People discount that. And to me, it’s one of the most important things because you allow other people to grow. You help other people grow and progress. You contribute to whatever it is that they’re building. You’re part of that, right? That support role is absolutely needed. So whatever your actual role is, you need to acknowledge that and then try to use it for your benefit.
And that’s where the potential part comes in. After you’ve accepted what your strengths are in that area, go for go and try to do something with it. Go try to help some people. Go try to develop it. Spend the time to become better at that, whether that’s reading, if you’re reading a book, if you’re reading online, be careful with that. And a lot of idiots online, I guess I’m online too. So no. Anyways, go and read about that. Maybe take a course, find a mentor. I’m a big supporter of that over education, overread, online over everything. Finding a mentor because that’s someone who actually did it in reality, that’s someone who has experience not talking theory, they’re not repeating what other AI articles wrote. They’re actually going to know how that works and how someone else can develop that and get past a bunch of other struggles that you would otherwise have to go through.
So I’m a big fan of mentorship and try to develop that skill and then go do it. And that’s where the courage comes in as well. On the reaching your potential, you need to have the courage to actually go and act on that. It’s not going to do itself. You got to go and do it. And even if you fail, pick yourself back up and do it again. Try to be better. Do it again. Do it again. It’s accepting who you are, accepting your strengths, and then trying to do something with that to better your life or better the lives of other people. It’s really important. So today, it’s probably going to be a short one, but I’m definitely going to come right back to this one because it’s such a big issue that I see. And one little tidbit in there that I’ll throw in.
This is important to remember. Insecurity is fear turned inward. Ego is fear turned outward. People who seem like they got a big ego, they’re really just insecure, but they put on this big show in an outward way to protect themselves. It’s a defense mechanism. So in reality, this whole thing for insecurity and how to overcome it and reach your full potential applies to people with big egos as well. They’re just hurting inside. They just don’t want anyone to see. All right guys, that’s it for today. Gi here on gi, set it. We will be coming back to this topic, but you guys know the place to go to listen and subscribe. GI said it.com. Yeah, support me, subscribe, say hello and be like, what’s up gi? What’s going on, man? I’m like, oh man, I’m just chilling. Working on my insecurities. All right, guys. GI said it.com. GI here on GI said it. I’m out.